my fiance and i have known each other over 2 years. This is just 1 of many examples i could give u, but last summer i purchased a boat.

my fiance, greg, wanted the title to have his name on it along w/ mine but i said no. i kept it in my name only.
Now, this year he wants to add a buncha new things like a new radio and a new swim platform, ect.
He also is getting a bunch of new and very much needed safety features added to the boat, but they cost alot of money.
I’m trying to save $ in a savings account but greg wants us to both spend our tax returns to get as much as possible in order for the boat to be ready this summer. I am willing to put the boat in storage this summer until i can get a job and our 5 month old can get a lil older but greg is not. he says if we can’t take it out this summer, he’s going to take out all the engine parts he bought & put in and strip the paint he painted on and sell the parts and accessories on ebay he also says “if i’m gonna be like that” then he refuses to haul the boat, work on it, ect. ever again. i explained to him that were just putting it in storage for 1 season until we both get a better job and can save some ect. but he says we can afford it now and i don’t have a job so i needen’t worry about what things cost and do as i’m told to do.

This is 1 of many things we argue about almost daily. When i mentioned i wanted to get a job before we did anything big like that he said you don’t even have your license to drive to a job and your too stupid to learn how to drive any way or to get a good job thats not fast food.

later he always makes up w/ me but doesn’t apologize. he says things like “i’m not trying to be an a-hole but this is how i feel.” and he talks nicer about the subject and we reach a peaceful agreement.

is any1 else going through this or something like this and how do you deal w. it? i normally just listen to him and whatever he says in the end b/c if not he gets loud and screams at me and it scares our baby. so what should i do?
i had a lot of inheritance and i purchased the boat out of my sole money. it wasn’t shared $ or anything like that. the money was only mine and the boat is only mine. i had a job at the time too but have since quit it to accommodate my pregnancy and then my child
umm in case lori the loser cannot tell i AM the 1 trying to grow up here and save some $ instead of blow it all
i am 19 not 14 here people. i am a smart person and if you think i have alot of problems then maybe you shoulda found me b4 i made all my “mistakes” and told me not to have sex or spend my $ on what i wanted to spend it all on. its none of you alls business to judge me about any thing. i am asking how to deal w/ this specific ? not how to avoid what has already happened

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